Allyship cannot be claimed, it must be earned. Do you know what it takes to lead, learn, and build collaboration and trust across differences of race, ethnicity, culture, and class — not to mention any other "isms"?


Are You a White Woman Who Has Said or Thought This?

"I'm dedicated to societal healing and solidarity but don't know where to start."


"I used to have Black friends, or so I thought, but I’m finding it hard to maintain or grow the relationships especially in our current times of shattered democracy and so much division."


"I am so afraid of saying or doing the wrong things that I feel myself drifting away from even trying."


"I’m in a leadership position where I can demonstrate my dedication to racial retribution and justice but I can’t build trust. I’m stuck!"


"I never really gave any of this much thought, but things have grown so fraught in our society that I want to understand how we got there!"


"I feel a deep calling to be a change-agent and I need ways to model and demonstrate sincerity to the Black and other non-white women around me...


"But even more importantly, I need to learn the concepts and stories that will help bring more of my white peers into this space of deeper understanding and authenticity."


And For the Rest of Us...

In these times you do find yourself saying or thinking things like this...

"Why do I even have to DO friendships across race anymore? They only end up voting against my safety."


"I’m tired of having to be an explainer for white women who are so eager to please but want me to do the work - what simple ideas and concepts can I share to encourage them to do their own work?"


"Wait, I realize I too have been raised in a society full of lies and false narratives. I have some untangling to do so I can focus my energy on what’s good for me."


"I spent my whole life in white spaces sitting silently while offenses took place that made me feel othered. I don’t want to end these relationships but I need some context to level-set and build a new basis for my friendships. Time for a change!"


"I don’t understand white people and wish they’d leave me alone, but I have no choice but to find ways to be in space with them, without me having to do the labor."


"I'm not a great #ally to other people 'of color' and I want to learn and unlearn so I can give as good as I want to get."

This eleven-module self-paced course: Allies, Advocates, Co-Conspirators, Friends, Sisters: A Playbook for Leading, Learning, and Liberation explores the complexities and possibilities of building authentic collaborations, relationships, and even friendships across race, culture, ethnicity, and class.

Through a combination of learning resources and self-reflection, participants will discover 10 "plays" that will help move them into a sustained practice we call the 3Ls: Learning, Leadership, and Liberation.

This course is intended for individual learning and reflection, allowing for safe, honest space for expanding one’s legacy viewpoints and opinions across ten “Playbook Tactics” that too often create blindspots, barriers, and biases that impede navigating difference.

Course Components

This course examines vectors of privilege, the unhelpful histories and cultural norms, and even how science and pseudo-science can contribute to bias and discrimination. If we take the time to discard biases and de-center dominant culture norms, we might just change ourselves — and help change our society and world.

Tactics/Lessons

Tactic One: Understand Privilege and Position, But Don’t Freeze

Tactic Two: Say No to Monoculture – Unlearn Minimizing and Ignoring

Tactic Three: Banish Tone Policing and Stereotyping

Tactic Four: Run Away From Exoticism, Fascination, and Fetishization

Tactic Five: Interrogate Power, to Expand It

Tactics/Lessons

Tactic Six: Retire the White Savior Approach

Tactic Seven: Reject Tokenism

Tactic Eight: Check Your Performativism, Nice-Ism, and Virtue-Signaling

Tactic Nine: Stop Ignoring History, Culture, Geography, and Context

Tactic Ten: Don’t Fall into the Trap of Over-Intellectualizing



Example Curriculum

  Welcome to the Course!
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  Tactic One: Understand Privilege and Position, But Don’t Freeze
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  Tactic Two: Say No to Monoculture – Unlearn Minimizing and Ignoring
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  Tactic Six: Retire the White Savior Approach
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  Tactic Seven: Reject Tokenism
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  Tactic Nine: Stop Ignoring History, Culture, Geography, and Context
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  Tactic Ten: Don’t Fall into the Trap of Over-Intellectualizing
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I created this course for me and for us...

as someone who grew up playing human ping pong between progressive white liberal spaces and my working class Black community of origin, I grew tired of being quiet, accommodating, low-key complicit.

Feeling challenged from both sides of the binary, I sought a means to be authentically my own melded self, but also to model a bridge across cultural divides and difference.

Division becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, and we are very deeply in it. 

In this moment, the lion's share of the work lies with white women. Traditionally and historically, you have been the ones served — by your Black slaves and domestics and by other minoritized women as your cooks, pedicurists, servers, nannies, etc. — and while you may not be a “Karen” (I’m astonished how many amazing white friends and acquaintances I have who are named Karen, must be a generational thing — they hate the association, btw!) you get lumped into the box, by nature of being white. 

Your frustration and discomfort with this stereotyping is the kind of thing your non-white sisters have endured all along. Let's continue exploring...

This kind of everyday discrimination that I just talked about happens to a lot of us non-white women if we dare to step out in public spaces not looking polished and professional.


If you are a white woman, were you aware of this?


Walking my dog in sweatpants around my neighborhood and being asked if I were taking on more clients ...

Being blocked, with my toddler daughters in tow, at the entrance to the fancy condo building my family was staying at because we had been playing in the nearby fountain and drilling and gleeful, didn’t look like “we could possibly” be guests in this establishment ...

Being literally patted on the head by a board member at a former place of employ because she was pleased with the work I had done. I was already over age 50 (!) when this happened...


This is just the social stuff! The ongoing systemic discrimination and workplace othering become more than one wants to bear. Friendships get lost, projects stall, community initiatives fracture.


We know women are the builders. So let's unlearn some stuff and commit to building a better future. Right now.

Let's upskill our ability to work together, to collaborate, to build, and to do so with joy and trust and abundance.


I believe this 3L Praxis: Learning, Leading, and Liberation are the essential set of tools and inner-work to help you reach that goal. 

Choose a Pricing Option

Group Pricing

Group facilitations are predicated on each participant doing the course individually. Group purchase will include minimum 6/maximum 12 registrations, prep session(s) and 1-3 group facilitation sessions, depending upon group size, org budget, and organization type.

Prices are based upon organizational structure and size. Additional prep sessions, group facilitations, and registrations can be added for a customized fee. There is special pricing for equity-led organizations (those whose principal and/or 51+ of ownership/leadership is BIPOC, woman, and/or neurodivergent).

Team sessions will convene students to discuss specific questions or topics that arise, and to determine with their cohort learning mates what activations and processes will best serve group goals around interaction, leadership, and mission attainment or group goals.

These are designed to build collective accountability as well as team cohesion and understanding around belonging, mattering, and productive, supportive, and equitable collaboration.

Small groups of friends can also also use an optional group workbook for leading their own discussion groups.

Contact us at [email protected] to discuss your needs.